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Shifting Your Attention

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You need to shift your attention between elements, relationships and the proximity. An over-emphasis on any one of these can be less effective.

This is also true when thinking about yourself. Sometimes see yourself as an element, sometimes a relationship or relationships, and sometimes either as a proximity or as part of your proximity. Then shift again.

Sometimes it’s possible to take two or three of these perspectives at once. Then shift again.

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Slowing Down Violence

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Perhaps the one of the best ways to slow down violence is to create proximities so engaging, enticing and rewarding that people wouldn’t even really think about doing something (like violence) to deny themselves being a part of these proximities.

This method is something nature uses. Consider sex. Sex is so great you wouldn’t really think about cutting it out of your life completely. Sex is a proximity which is engaging, enticing and rewarding.

So how could we more consistently create engaging, enticing and rewarding proximities, and in doing so slow down violence? I think ProxThink and the ProxThink Growth Model could be of some service to us. Together, they provide some ideas, tools, models and processes which people can interpret for their proximities. They were designed to capture some of what good relationships are about, and what creativity is about, both of which people find engaging, enticing and rewarding.

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Relationship Concepts and the Real World

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Part of the Core Idea of ProxThink is the notion that to be is to be related. If to be is to be related, how do you operationalize that in the real world? If things are defined by their relationships, and also define other things and relationships, how do you know what anything is?

Alan Watts says the Hindus say you’ve got to draw the line somewhere. Well, an element and a proximity both draw a line, since they define, in a relational way, what you are considering. A relationship can also draw a line.

Yet in real life, things aren’t fixed forever, so we need flexibility in what we consider elements, relationships and proximities. The lines we draw can’t stay drawn forever. So we wind up with a somewhat fluid, somewhat stable situation in which we are continuously defining and redefining, consciously or unconsciously, elements, relationships and proximities.

And this seems to work. It’s just that we don’t think of it this way usually. However, I’ve found it useful to do so sometimes. It helps, or can help, one stay in the loose/tight somewhat neutral position from which we can be creative, react appropriately, and exert influence.

Proxri Deal: As you find our relationship rewarding, proxri with the proximity in mind.