Variety is my carrot. Climate change is my stick.

Variety is my carrot, since most people like variety and often want a bit more of it. Climate change is my stick, since we’re pretty much going to have to do more about climate change. But whether you’re motivated by variety, climate change, or both, learning and using the proximity thinking framework can make a difference.

Let’s start with the stick. If you believe in climate change, why wouldn’t you explore a new framework for thinking about it and dealing with it? The framework I’m talking about is proximity thinking, and especially one part of it called the sustainable proximities approach. However, if you do not believe in climate change, then you should also not believe in insurance. Because doing something to lessen the impact and threat of climate change is essentially getting some insurance. And, if you do not believe in insurance, then good luck to you, my friend, because there will likely come a day when you need some luck.

On the carrot side, if you do not believe in climate change, then perhaps you do believe in a life with some variety. Or if it hasn’t really become a belief, I’ll bet you at least want some variety in your life. And if you think about variety for a while, you’ll realize that what you probably want is sustainable variety. But then we are back to this new framework for thinking called proximity thinking. Part of the framework is the idea of sustainable proximities. How does that relate to variety? Here’s the thing: I think sustainable proximities and sustainable variety go together. I think they help create each other and enhance each other. Of course, it’s possible you don’t believe in, or want, some variety in your life. Again, I wish you the best of luck, because probably, no matter how great your life is, there will come a day when you get tired of it, and want some variety. If you, and we, don’t have ways of getting sustainable variety, we’re going to be depending on luck for the needed variety, and some of that variety may not be as pleasant as we like. If your life is working for you just fine as is, it’s probably partly because you’re getting enough variety. But getting enough variety is partly about keeping your eyes open for new kinds of variety, so sustainable proximities should interest you as well, in your quest for ongoing, sustainable variety.

So now you have both a carrot and a stick to help get you to explore proximity thinking!


Good Reasons to Watch the Let’s ProxThink Demo Video

The new Let’s ProxThink Demo video (below) not only gives you an idea of what Let’s ProxThink sessions might be like, but there are other good reasons to watch it. Here’s a short list. Below that is the same list with more details:

  1. Gain New Approaches for Personal, Local and Even Global Situations
  2. Understand Proximity Thinking More Quickly
  3. Have Your Own Let’s ProxThink Sessions
  4. Create Sustainable Proximities with People You Know
  5. Consider a Let’s ProxThink Session with Us
  6. Make Sessions with Us Shorter, More Valuable and More Effective
  7. Get Up to Speed on the ProxThink Website More Quickly
  8. Help Others and Yourself by Commenting on the Video
  9. Become a Beta Tester of Let’s ProxThink Sessions
  10. Be One of the First to Learn and Use Proximity Thinking

Here’s more about each point on the list above:

  1. Gain New Approaches for Personal, Local and Even Global Situations: This video will give you some conceptual tools and technology tools to think differently about and work on personal, local and even global situations, problems and challenges. It could change the way you think and collaborate.
  2. Understand Proximity Thinking More Quickly: This is the most concise and most accessible introduction to proximity thinking that I’ve created so far. Save yourself some time, even if you don’t attend a session. The insights of 30+ years are compressed into 42 minutes. It would take you far longer to read through the key parts of the website.
  3. Have Your Own Let’s ProxThink Sessions: Watch this and you’ll know enough to begin having your own Let’s ProxThink sessions with people you know or work with!
  4. Create Sustainable Proximities with People You Know: Learn new ways for a group of people who share a proximity to coordinate and collaborate. The video shows you how to use some apps and your smartphone, along with the ProxThink growth model, to create sustainable proximities, which also boosts sustainable variety.
  5. Consider a Let’s ProxThink Session with Us: You’ll get an idea of what Let’s ProxThink sessions with us might be like, so you can decide about joining an open session, scheduling one for yourself or your group, or being notified of upcoming public sessions via Hangouts On Air.
  6. Make Sessions with Us Shorter, More Valuable and More Effective: If you watch this before Let’s ProxThink sessions with us, you will get more out of them, and we may even be able to skip some parts of the session and get right into discussing your situations.
  7. Get Up to Speed on the ProxThink Website More Quickly: The video gives a brief tour of the ProxThink website. Feel more comfortable on the site more quickly.
  8. Help Others and Yourself by Commenting on the Video: Comment on the video or content, either here on this blog or by contacting us. You can help other people with your comments and insights, you’ll learn more from the video in the process of commenting, and you’ll help make ProxThink better and future Let’s ProxThink sessions better. For this, you could also possibly get proxri as part of our Collaboration Deal.
  9. Become a Beta Tester of Let’s ProxThink Sessions: Use this video to consider becoming a beta tester for Let’s ProxThink sessions. You’ll be under no obligation to proxri anything for the session, and you can provide as little or as much feedback about the session as you like. You could also possibly get proxri as part of our Collaboration Deal. For more information and to schedule a session, please contact us.
  10. Be One of the First to Learn and Use Proximity Thinking: You’ll be one of the first people to learn and use proximity thinking, possibly conveying advantages that can shape and change your life and your proximities.

Viewing Notes:
• It’s best to watch this in full screen mode, to see the smallest text.
• Also, you can jump to different sections with the links just below the video.

STARTING AT DIFFERENT SECTIONS: The full version, played from the beginning, is above. You can start at different sections below. (You can also start at different sections on YouTube, from the About description of the video. Click the YouTube logo in the lower right of video above to watch on YouTube, then expand the About description of the video using Show More.)

START AT: Welcome & Overview, Collaboration Deal
Includes: Welcome and Overview, Similar to Non-Public Sessions, Collaboration Deal and Terms of Use.

START AT: Before We Start … Context, Creativity and Capturing
Includes: ProxThink in Context, Capturing Ideas on Your Smartphone and Computer.

START AT: Beginning of Presentation
Includes: What is ProxThink, Why Proximity, Main Parts of Framework.

START ATBasics – Four Terms, with Examples
Includes: Four Terms, Situation, Examples of Situations, Element, Relationship, Proximity, Examples, Proximities Overlap, Our Biggest Challenges, Car Broke Down Example.

START ATBasics – Foundation, Terms & Tools, with Examples
Includes: The Basics Overview, Foundation, Core Idea, Car Broke Down Example with Core Idea.

START ATProxPatterns Intro & Combo ProxPatterns, with Examples
Includes: Introduction, 16 ProxPatterns (PPs), Combo PPs, Honor Integrity PP, Examples, Car Broke Down Example with Honor Integrity, Relate a Variety PP, Examples, Car Broke Down Example with Relate a Variety.

START ATLimits ProxPatterns, with Examples
Includes: Limits PPs, Value of Some PP, Examples, Car Broke Down Example with Value of Some.

START ATPure ProxPatterns, with Examples
Includes: Pure PPs, Introduce Related PP, Examples, Car Broke Down Example with Introduce Related, ProxPatterns are a Team.

START ATGrowth Model Intro & RelatePoints, with Examples
Includes: Growth Model Introduction, Four Processes, RelatePoints, Shared Kitchen Example with RelatePoints. 

START ATProxMonitors & Vadi Agreements, with Examples
Includes: ProxMonitors, Vadi Agreements, Shared Kitchen Example with ProxMonitors and Vadi Agreements. 

START ATProxri (ProxRewards), with Examples
Includes: Proxri, How Do You Proxri?, Shared Kitchen Example with Proxri. 

START ATTechnology Tools to Boost the Growth Model, with Examples
Includes: Tools to Boost Growth Model with Quip App Examples.

START ATQuick Review
Includes: Reviewing the Framework, Why Proximity, Proximities Overlap, Our Biggest Challenges, Q&A. 

START ATBefore We Go – Proxri, Connecting, Start Your Own
Includes: Introduction, Proxri for This Session, Connecting with Us, Watching This Later, Future Sessions, Consider Teaching Someone, Create Sustainable Variety, Thanks + Subscribe + Services.

What next? Please go to to join an open session, or schedule one for yourself or your group. You can also follow us to be notified of future public sessions via Hangouts On Air.

“How to ProxThink That” Webinar Series Launched

We’ve launched a new webinar series, our first! Combining a conference call and online work, this interactive intro webinar will help you learn How to ProxThink That. Limited to 24 people, this interactive session may fill up quickly. It will be hosted by David Loughry, creator of proximity thinking. The first sessions will be August 25th and 26th.

You can find links to current webinars via our Eventbrite page at:

As of today, here are the key event details.

What we’ll do:
1. Introduce you to the ProxThink framework and tour the site.
2. Practice generating ideas using ProxPatterns and the Growth Model. To relate to your life, we’ll practice generating ideas for social, business and community situations.
3. Q&A (Questions and Answers)

What’s included (after the session):
1. You’ll have a post-session call with David, any time within a year, for further questions or discussion (up to 15 minutes).
2. You’ll get a ProxThink website membership, which includes the power to turn off ads, space for saving ideas, and a way to track your learning.
3. You’ll be sent a printable PDF of the ProxPatterns formatted to cut out for your wallet or purse. Feel free to share this with others.

What you’ll get:
1. New perspective, new framework, mental stimulation and a quicker onramp:
 You’ll gain a new way of looking at the world and a new framework that gives you more options for thinking, creating, innovating, solving problems, boosting sustainability, and living. Plus there’s the mental stimulation, and a quicker onramp to learning about proximity thinking than learning it on your own.
2. New ideas and the satisfaction of helping others: We’ll develop ideas during the session for some situations you and others may face. You may benefit and possibly help others too.
3. Possibility of proxri for you: We may make public some ideas we develop, via the ProxThink River blog. For both the public ideas, and ideas only the session participants can access, you’ll have the possibility of getting proxri for them from a session participant or someone out there in the wide world.

What you’ll need:
1. A phone or a way to make voice calls via Skype. Either will do.
2. A computer. You will want at least two browser windows open at once, so the bigger the screen the better.
3. A Google account, so you can access the shared Google Doc we’ll be working on. Please know the email associated with your Google account BEFORE registering. (You can get a Google account without getting Gmail, if you want, using your existing email account.)

For current suggested pricing, and to find a date that works for you and to register, please visit:

Asians Might Learn ProxThink Quicker?


“Americans are more likely to see categories. Asians are more likely to see relationships.” So says David Brooks in his recent op-ed Harmony and the Dream. He is using scientific experiments as sources, and he also says: “Americans usually see individuals; Chinese and other Asians see contexts.”

Individuals and categories (Americans) are more like the ProxThink term element. Relationships and contexts (Asians) are more like the ProxThink terms relationship and proximity. And once you see relationships and proximity, you’re likely to see elements too.

It’s important to note ProxThink doesn’t favor the proximity, since the proximity consists of elements related or potentially related to a situation, in physical, mental and other ways. In other words, the proximity is both elements and relationships. Further, you are aware of the proximity when you are aware of elements and relationships and the situation.

So maybe Americans could benefit more from ProxThink, but Asians will learn to use it faster? Perhaps. But you never know. There are limits to these sorts of generalizations.

To learn more about elements, relationships and proximities, join

Proxri Deal: As you find our relationship rewarding, proxri with the proximity in mind.