You need to shift your attention between elements, relationships and the proximity. An over-emphasis on any one of these can be less effective.
This is also true when thinking about yourself. Sometimes see yourself as an element, sometimes a relationship or relationships, and sometimes either as a proximity or as part of your proximity. Then shift again.
Sometimes it’s possible to take two or three of these perspectives at once. Then shift again.
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